It’s a sad fact of life that every festive season sees a drastic rise in the incidence of domestic abuse. Pressure to create ‘the ideal Christmas’ creates or amplifies financial strains. This combines with greater alcohol consumption and more time together indoors (and a lack of natural escape spaces like a workplace) to create a perfect storm of tension, emotion & proximity.
With Covid exacerbating the situation last year, It’s no surprise that some charities experienced over 50% more calls over Christmas 2020 than in 2019. What is surprising is that some people don’t even realise that the often profoundly unhappy state they find themselves in is a result of them experiencing one of the many forms that domestic abuse can take.
Are you are already experiencing domestic abuse? Or, are you not sure if you are? Do you know someone you think may be being abused? Or, do you think you might become the subject of domestic abuse during this Christmas period? Whatever your current status it’s important that you don’t suffer in silence but that you take early action. Even if that means you simply become better informed about your options.
What counts as domestic abuse?
The term ‘Domestic Abuse’ covers a wide range of scenarios from discrete individual actions to long-term low-level behaviours. It’s not just about obvious physical violence but also includes much less obvious verbal, psychological, financial and emotional abuse. Anyone male or female, young or old can experience domestic abuse and many will experience it for the first time this Christmas.
What should you do if you are suffering or know someone who is?
- If danger is imminent - seek immediate assistance
If you are suffering or you know someone else who is, and you have immediate safety concerns either for yourself or for any children of the family involved, the first step is always to call the Police. You should ensure that medical attention is obtained for any emotional or physical conditions suffered as a result of the abuse. Then, it is important to seek longer term help as soon as possible instead of waiting until after the Christmas period.
- If you’re not sure what to do - ask for confidential help
We absolutely understand that reaching out can sometimes be an incredibly daunting prospect and we understand the sensitive nature of these situations. At Jackson Lees we pride ourselves on making a positive difference to our client’s lives and aim to put you at ease from your very first contact with us. We are able to discuss the options available to you in complete confidence and help you get to grips with where you stand. We can even explore the suitability of legal aid options for you.
- If you're not ready to take those steps - there are other steps you can take
It’s useful to keep a record of all incidents you think might be abuse. If you feel a situation building then ensure that you have emergency supplies to hand, such as essential items and money, in case you need to leave your home at short notice. If possible, set up and keep in regular contact, with a family member or friend who can help ensure that you are not isolated and can if necessary, gain access to help on your behalf.
- Don’t forget the children
Everyone must understand that domestic abuse can significantly impact children. The charity Women’s Aid report that children can suffer short and long term emotional and cognitive harm if they have witnessed or been affected by even the subtler forms of domestic abuse. Children may also directly suffer harm themselves. We can help ensure that you and your children are protected and even show you how your financial needs can be met following a separation.
Practical things we can do to help
Apart from helping you to understand where you stand, we can take practical action that’s appropriate to your circumstances.
If someone is using or threatening violence to you or your children, or if they are encouraging a third party to do the same on their behalf, then we can seek a Non-Molestation Order to prevent these actions.
If you are worried about living in close proximity to a potential abuser, we can help you obtain an Occupation Order. This sets out who can live in the family home and whether the other party needs to leave. This Order can also set out which areas of the family home parties can live in. The terms of such Orders tend to differ from case to case to ensure that adequate protection is provided.
If you are concerned about coming to harm or indeed have been a victim of abuse, or if you are worried about someone in that situation then please speak up. There is help out there and the team at Jackson Lees can help you find a way out.
You can have a free confidential chat with one of our specialist, friendly and discrete family law solicitors, by calling us on 0151 282 1700. You can also request a call back at your convenience or message us with your enquiry or concerns.